10 ways to get excited about your life

What does your “Queen Bee” look like

While working with my life coach a while back he asked me to name the voice inside my head that believes in me.  Do you know the voice I mean?  It’s your true, inner voice; the one that tells you you can; the one that believes in you, the one that kicks ass.  The way this works for me is that when I listen to this voice, I believe I can.  It helps me trust myself to move forward, make that decision, take that step.  This is my Queen Bee.

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As I am moving forward with a new business venture and busy making one of my dreams come true I find myself calling on my Queen Bee more and more often.  Because right alongside my QB is my doubter voice, the one that tries to say “maybe I can’t” or, “I don’t know how”.

Now that I am connecting with, and listening to, my Queen Bee, things are happening and I am excited!!  It continuously amazes me how things fall into place somehow when I listen to that voice, when I believe in what I am doing and what I can do. I love living with excitement and joy in my life.  I love waking up looking forward to whatever the day is going to bring.  And I love sharing this amplified way of living with others and with you.

So, let me share some of the ways that I get myself to this place joyful place of confidence, life mastery and living true to myself:

1. Pay attention to what your body and soul is telling you.  Notice when your body responds with enthusiasm and joy to a thought or an idea.  This is your inner voice telling you, you are on the right path.
2. Exercise.  When I am working out I get pumped about my ideas.  Especially when I am on my own, letting my ideas flow.  Working out makes me feel strong and capable.  Love this amazing feeling and the high I feel when walking out of the gym or when finishing a trail ride in the forest.  When you are good to your body it will respond positively and be good to you
3. Surround yourself with people who support you and believe in you.  Period.  That’s it.  Walk away from people who try to tell you that you can’t.  They just want to drag you down with them.
4. Listen to music that gets your mojo going
5. Be mindful.  Mindful of your surroundings, the small moments, time with loved ones.
6. Enjoy nature.  I am always taken back by the effect nature can have on me.  I love grabbing my notebook and just sitting and letting the ideas flow, or I just let nature fill me up with its’ beauty and strength
7. Show your love generously and you will be loved back just as generously.  Sharing your love of life and others feels great.
8. Time with friends – good friends
9. Work with a coach, or find a mentor, or someone who can help you.  Asking for help only makes you stronger.
10. BELIEVE. IN. YOU.

I went for a trail ride this morning and recorded my first “action” video.  Please be kind…. Feeling a little nervous about publishing it, but my Queen Bee is telling me to go for it so I am.

The greatest challenges of being a mom

If you read my post yesterday, “5 things I would say to a New or Expectant Mom” you might be able to guess what some of my greatest challenges were as a mother.  Therefore I am going to share not just my challenges, but some that I hear from my clients when we are working together, or from Moms I meet.

But first, what is your greatest challenge as a mom?  What was the one thing you didn’t expect to be so difficult?

Now that my kids are older I look back and have a difficult time remembering some of the things I probably struggled with when they were younger.  So, before we talk about what the challenges are, let me say that this will pass, sooner than you think.  You might even miss it one day.

Lack of time

One of the most common complaints I hear is lack of time.  Time for yourself; time for/with your spouse; time to get things done; time to have a shower.  I do remember this well.  There were days when all I wanted was 3 minutes to go to the bathroom by myself without anyone knocking or barging in with some insignificant, and often minuscule perceived disaster.  This eventually graduated into wanting an hour or so to have an uninterrupted dinner with my husband or friend once in a while. But inevitably I would have to resolve an argument over whose turn it was to play xbox over the phone.  Solution: leave cellphone in purse and only check once per hour.  Trust your babysitter to take care of things.  And bathroom breaks… I told my boys that unless their was blood gushing from their body or an limb was falling off they were NOT to interrupt me under any circumstances…. It worked often enough 🙂

Lack of a sex-life

You might not be surprised to hear that not only moms complain about this… 😉  Yes, husbands complain about this as well – a lot.  This is a tough one.  Moms are exhausted.  They spend their day getting puked on, snotted on and yelled/cried/screamed at.  None of these things go a long way to feeling sexy, desirable or like having anyone else anywhere physically close to them.  Add to that no time to have a shower or any kind of personal care….  And, by the time dinner is over, homework done, driving to activities completed both parents are so exhausted that sleep is the only thing anyone wants.  It’s unfortunate really, because sex is fun and keeps us close with our partner.  My advice: Do it anyway, you will be glad  you did.  You know once you get started you will enjoy it 😉

Dealing with screaming, unreasonable, sick, or whatever (insert issue) children 

This was one of my greatest challenges; the insanity factor as I called it.  I wrote a bit about this in “Crazy Days”.  My days were so unpredictable.  I could have the greatest plan, but then something would happen and everything was thrown off.  This often resulted in that I could not go and visit someone, do what we had planned or that we were going to be an hour late as I was cleaning up some bodily fluid from somewhere, on something….. 😦

Leaving babies or young children with a baby sitter

Many moms find this very difficult.  They even struggle leaving them with their spouse at times.  Alert! I’m going to be scolding a little here: C’mon mom! Get over it!  You need to be able to trust those around you.  Nothing bad is going to happen to your baby if he/she is with their father.  They will do things differently.  The changetable with be messy when you get home and their outfit may be dirty because they forgot to put the bib on…. so what?!  Dad loves this time alone with their children.  They love when they come to him, instead of just going to you.  And you should love it too.  I know it is hard – really I do.  But it is so worth it!  You need to look after yourself and take time.

I could go on and on but will end as I feel I have hit the major ones.  Raising older kids have a whole different set of challenges which I will address another day.  You can read about many of my struggles in my previous posts like Mom Dilemma 1 and Mom Dilemma 2

Ok, now it is your turn to share 🙂  Please do so in comments below

Elisabeth

How do I get more done each day?

This is a question I have been asking myself a lot lately.  As with most of you, I wear many hats.  I fondly remember the days when all I had to worry about was being a child, or being a student, or being a friend – but never all at once!  Now I am a Mom, step mom, wife, doggie owner, personal trainer, teacher, business owner, chauffeur, shopper, friend…etc etc.  But I don’t feel legit saying that it’s because I am a mom, or any of those other things, that I don’t get enough work done on my business.  My kids are older and though there are days where they need me a lot, there are many more days where everyone is in school all day and the house is quiet.  So, how do I get the most out of those days?  This is where I often disappoint myself.

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290 × 430 – beinglol.comor being a friend – but never all at once!  Now I am a Mom, step mom, wife, doggie owner, personal trainer, teacher, business owner, chauffeur, shopper, friend…etc etc.  But I don’t feel legit saying that it’s because I am a mom, or any of those other things, that I don’t get enough work done on my business.  My kids are older and though there are days where they need me a lot, there are many more days where everyone is in school all day and the house is quiet.  So, how do I get the most out of those days?  This is where I often disappoint myself.

I know I need to set some clear goals for myself.  Not just big goals, but smaller daily goals.  And then I need to make sure I implement a plan to get that done!  I have recently been lucky enough to get to work with a business coach and had a very productive call with him yesterday.  At the end of the hour I had some very clear strategies in place to help me get the most out of my day.

But there are some changes I would like to make.  I need to make my work day more effective and set some clear goals for myself.  As my kids are getting older and need me less, I can spend more time on my business.  Spent a great, productive hour on the phone with my business coach this morning and have some clear strategies in place to make this happen.

Here are some of the things we discussed: and I am posting it here because I then feel accountable to YOU.  Since I have told you I am going to do it, I now have to make sure I do 🙂

• schedule tasks, with reminders
• Consistently focus on one task at a time
• Complete a task list at the end of the day so I can get started right away in the morning when my mind is the clearest and I am the most productive.
• Only check emails the last 10 minutes of every hour instead of whenever they come in (I have already turned off email notification on my phone and laptop and this has already improved my focus)
• Use exercise as a reward, not an excuse not to work… Lol – yes I love to exercise!

This is just the beginning…. !

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Prior to our session I had found a great article on how to stay focused that really resonated with me – read more here…  I am printing it off and posting in front of me above my computer.  I especially liked #2: Focus on two tasks and #4: Interval train your brain.  Very cool.  I will let you know how it goes.  I look forward to hearing from you what you think!

How do you get things done?  Are you a list person?  Do you set reminders?  Please share your successful tips.  Or let me know if I can help you in any way 🙂